Love Is 2-Way, Not 1-Way, Else Its No-Way

I am unhappy with the facts that she is less invested in our marriage and I am not her top priority. I still remember clearly on our recent anniversary and birthdays, I take the effort to plan on how we should celebrate it, where we should go for some good time, just the two of us but she rather go to work. If I can take a day off on this special occasions, I dont see a reason why she cant. We've been together in this relationship for the past 7 years, we came a long way, we celebrated 7 birthdays, 6 Christmas, 6 Valentines, 6 anniversaries. I remembered each and every of them clearly and I never failed to get something for her. How about her? How many present do I received from her in this 7 years? Is this love? Ironically, on the other hand, she remembered Mother's Day, Father's Day, her mother's birthday, her father's birthday clearly and its a must for her to get something for them. I cant accept a wife that prioritize her maiden family over her husband! Is this love?

I am unhappy with the facts that our life after marriage was misconstrued beliefs and unrealistic vs my expectation. I dont feel home. Its practically just a shelter for showers and some rest rather than home. I had a terrible childhood, my parents are so busy finding money that they failed to provide me the love of a home. I dont want this anymore! I wish that there will be days that I will wait impatiently for the clock to struck 10pm and I would rush home because I know there will be someone waiting for me at the door, greet me with hugs and kissses, make me some supper even if I'm full, have some casual chat, ask me how was my day etc. But no, I feel so lonely. Every time I reach home with the hope that she is still awake, turns into disappointment. No one greet me at the door other than my maid. Even as a maid, she has the courtesy to ask me "have you taken your dinner, there is soup in the kitchen" without fail. Where's my wife? No doubt she might be tired or need to wakes up early next day but cant she at least open her eyes and give me a good night kiss? At times, I really miss her and right after my shower, I get into the bed cuddling up next to her, hugging her and put my arms over her but she doesnt like it at all, she feels that I am disturbing her sleep and even asked me to sleep further as she need more space. Is this love?

I am unhappy with the facts that we are lack of communication, inability to constructive share concerns, emotion, thoughts, ideas or plain chat with each other. Each and every single joke, humors I cracked for her seems to be lame. It had been awhile since I last make her laugh. I always want to have some time to our own, cuddling up on the bed or sofa, listening to some slow music and share some thoughts, view of our future, our directions etc but she was never such a person. I am really in dilemma, this is not what I want. How long has it been since we talked to each other, hanging over the phone or even fighting? I cant remember when is the last time I really sit down and talk to her. If there's something that she need to tell me, sms or facebook would be our medium. Is this love?

I am unhappy with the facts that we are sexual incompatibility, lack of frequency, desire, comfort and satisfaction. I always have high sex drive but our sexual encounter had changed from "making love" to "having sex". There is no feeling involved. No kissing, no foreplay and at times we dont even strip to barenaked, its practically just get down to business. And why does it always have to be my initiative? Doesnt she has any sex appeal and desire? She just do it simply for my pleasure, my physical satisfaction, basically there are just motions without emotions. And for the record, our sexual encounter was as low as once a month and she can just live with it just fine. Is this love?