Just 1 year 9 months since we tied the knot on 9th Jan 2011 and I am not feeling right about this marriage. I am feeling unsure as to what I should do about my feelings of dissatisfaction about this marriage. Our feelings are a feedback mechanism to us about whether we're on track, whether we're on course or off course, the latter seems in favor.
The voices; internal and external - are loud, persistent and conflicting. "Leave her. She's not right for you!", "Are you crazy? She's such a great mother to Velfred.. how could you think about destroying his future?!"
I am at a crossroads, trying to decide what to do, working hard at make sense in my own head about what I want. It's been a pretty good relationship with highs and lows; intervals of stress and strain intermixed with moments of bliss. I've been in other relationship too so I'm not naive about the challenges that pop up with any person. I know love takes effort.
Yet, there's a nagging feeling of dissatisfaction that wont's go away. I've tried to stand back and assess exactly what isn't right in this marriage. My decision isn't as straightforward as it might be if she was an abuser of some kind, but she is really a good person. I'm just not happy in this marriage and who I'm when I am with her. I feel stuck, wondering where I go from here. I'm just not sure if this marriage is right for me.
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